Mindfulness-based
Licensed Marraige and Family Therapist
In the state of Oregon, Washington and Illinois
“To love without clutching, to appreciate without judging, to join without invading, to invite without demanding. To leave without guilt, to criticize without blaming, and to help without insulting”
---Virginia Satir.
You feel exhausted trying to stay on top of life, but you forget about yourself and what would make you happy. You find yourself asking: why am I the only person floundering to make sure everyone else is satisfied?” But when you don’t do this, you feel even worse. You feel lost.
Sometimes our relationship suffers despite our best effort. You find yourself getting stuck in the same pattern that feels frustrating and exhausting. Even simple conversation seems difficult, and gradually, walls are built. You feel unseen and unheard. You feel angry at your partner. You feel so alone.
Or maybe you are a well-established professional, but you feel lost in the dating world. Often, you find yourself attracted to the wrong person. You struggle to know how to open up. The person who makes your heart flatter seems to turn away the moment you want more commitment. You are told that you are a dear friend, but you are just not seen in that romantic way. You feel rejected and disappointed. Sometimes, it feels like you are not good enough.
Or maybe you feel sad about what happened to you in the past. You feel stuck as if there is a part of you whose time seems to have stopped, and you’ve never had a chance to open up about it.
Individuals Sessions 50 minutes • $220
Couples Sessions 50 minutes • $240
First Couples Session 75 minutes • $360
Hi there, I am May Han, LMFT,
I believe it is possible to break free from old destructive patterns and live a fuller life that is aligned with your truth.
I became a therapist to help people reconnect with themselves in a kind way, to be happy with who they are, and to build authentic and loving relationships that they truly deserve.
A lot of my clients come to therapy asking themselves, alone or with their partners:
What is wrong?
Why do I try so hard to deal with everything, and things seem to be just falling apart?
Why am I not happy?
What do I want?
With a training background from the Northwestern University and almost a decade of clinical experience, I help by:
Coaching you to slow down and attend to yourself.
Teaching you how to feel your feelings in a way that feels good.
Showing you how to validate and accept yourself.
Empowering you to get what you need in your life and learn to feel great about it.
Assisting you/two of you, to re-discover your values and beliefs, to shift from defensiveness to openness, and build a stronger connection.
Supporting you to be there for others, while caring for yourself.
To learn more about my approach, please visit each service section with specific specialties.
It is deeply humbling and meaningful for me to witness my clients’ transformation to a more connected, authentic and satisfying life.I look forward to walking along this journey with you.
Here are some kind words from one of my past clients:
May Han,
I am very grateful my first therapy experience had a significant impact in my life and it was with you. You have taught me understanding, hope and breathing and listening skills for myself and others. So much of your words & your understanding of mine has influenced my career and personal life in such a short time. Thank you for caring for all parts of me including the young child and teaching me to do the same. You have opened up a part of my life I never knew I had the strength to confront.
Your clients will be so lucky to work with you as I have been.
–MN
Professional Background:
B.S. The University of Oregon. Departmental Honors, Cum Laude.
M.S. The Family Institute at Northwestern University.
Externship with ICEEFT.
Clinical training with The Family Institute’s Bette D. Harris Family and Child Clinic.
Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT).
AAMFT Approved Supervisor Candidate.
Chair of the Diversity, Equity and Inclusion Committee with the Alumni Advisory Board, Northwestern University.
Featured Panelist re: Discussion on Challenges with East Asian Mental Health with Chicago Minds.
Services
Individual Counseling
We help couples shift from distress and distance to openness and connection. We help couples prepare for the ups and downs of life so that they can feel more confident with what life brings.
Telehealth
We are pleased to offer our individual and couples counseling services via a secure, HIPAA compliant platform to support individuals and couples on the go while helping people build genuine connections and live a fulfilling life.
Our Values
We believe the fundamentals of healing rest most importantly on our relationships. Through a safe, trustworthy relationship with your therapist, we want to empower you to explore a refreshed, more integrated look at some of the difficult moments in life. It is our hope to light a spark towards a new, genuine, caring way of relating. Through this attentive, nurturing relationship, we believe that you can slowly tap into the innate healing impulse that guides you to things that bring you joy, pleasure, and ease, along with a liberating rediscovery of your personal truth.
At Spark Relational Counseling, we welcome and celebrate individuals from ALL walks of life and identities. Some of our guiding values include (but are not limited to): LGBTQIA+ affirming, Sex-positive, Kink&Poly friendly, Poly and Open Relationship friendly
Our Treatment Modalities: Experiential Therapy, Attachment-based, Mindfulness, Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS)
